Ever felt like you’re constantly pushing, trying, wanting to move forward – but something invisible keeps pulling you back? Chances are, it’s not the world. It’s not even bad luck. It might be you. More specifically, your mind.
Fear of failure (and success)
“What if I try and it doesn’t work?, what if I succeed and can’t keep it up?” Sound familiar?
Fear is sneaky. It disguises itself as procrastination, perfectionism, or even humility. But underneath, it’s just our brain trying to protect us from pain or unfamiliar territory.
How to overcome it:
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Start before you’re ready. Done is better than perfect.
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Reframe failure as redirection, not rejection.
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Write down what success would really mean to you—then ask yourself, am I afraid of what happens if I actually get what I want? Be honest. Awareness is powerful.
Imposter syndrome
Are you hearing, “I’m not good enough.”, “Who do I think I am to do this?” or “They’re going to find out I have no idea what I’m doing.”
We have all heard it but you don’t need to feel 100% confident to be worthy of a seat at the table. Imposter syndrome often affects high-achieving people the most.
How to overcome it:
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Keep a “win file”—emails, texts, or notes of encouragement, compliments, and accomplishments. Read it when doubt creeps in.
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Replace “I’m not ready” with “I’m learning.”
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Remind yourself: Everyone is winging it in some way.
Comparison paralysis
Comparison paralysis sounds like: “She’s already doing what I want to do, they’re younger/fitter/more experienced.” or “I’ll never catch up.” It steals clarity and blurs your focus and dilutes your uniqueness.
How to overcome it:
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Limit exposure to triggering social media accounts. Curate your feed with people who inspire, not drain.
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Remember: No one can replicate your exact voice, vision, or vibe.
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Instead of comparing, connect. Ask them how they got there. Collaboration beats comparison.
Low self-worth
Have you ever told yourself: “I don’t deserve better.”, “I’ll settle for this, it’s all I’m gonna get.” or “I’m too much/not enough.” Your life will reflect what you believe you deserve. The way you speak to yourself becomes the limit of what you allow.
How to overcome it:
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Catch and reframe your self-talk. When you hear the voice of your inner critic, challenge it like you would if it was talking to someone you love.
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Invest in self-care like you’re preparing for something beautiful—because you are.
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Surround yourself with people who reflect your highest self, not your fears.
The need for control
The need for control sounds like: “If it’s not perfect, I don’t want to do it.”“I need to know how it’s going to work before I start.” or “I can’t relax until everything is figured out.” And, although, control can feel like safety, but it’s often just a disguise for anxiety. Over-planning can become a trap that keeps us from actually starting.
How to overcome it:
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Let go of the need to know everything. Allow room for mystery and surprise.
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Set the vision but be flexible with the route.
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Create before you’re certain. Confidence often comes after action.
Mental blocks are not signs that you’re broken. They’re signs that you’re human. But staying stuck doesn’t have to be your story. Growth starts with awareness. Healing begins with choice.
You can rewrite the script.
So here’s a reminder/affirmation for you today: You are capable. You are worthy. You are allowed to try, stumble, restart, and win—again and again. Let your mind be your ally, not your enemy.
The life you want is on the other side of the thoughts you choose to change.
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