South Africa’s Class of 2024 have kicked off with the first week of their final exams. With that said, we’re sharing a few helpful tips on how to be a supporter to learners who are writing their matric finals – for parents, siblings and family members.
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1. Morning routine matters
Navigating a stressful space on the morning of a big exam can impact a loved one’s ability to stay sharp and focused.
Creating a morning routine that works for everyone is essential. As a parent, aim to maintain a calm breakfast environment and ensure that uniforms and necessary materials are ready the evening before. This cuts back on unnecessary last-minute stress and helps the whole family start the day positively.
2. Know their specific needs
Emotional support looks different for every student. Some may need space and quiet, while others prefer normal family interaction to stay grounded. Watch for cues from your loved one about what they need, and be flexible in your approach.
3. Let the pressure off
Between exams, help your family member decompress without pressure to discuss their papers. Simple family activities can provide a good and healthy distraction, but respect their choice if they prefer to be alone. The key is to maintain a balance between support and space.
4. Keep the family chat under control
Social media and family WhatsApp groups can create additional pressure during this time, even when communications are intended as supportive. Consider minimising exam discussion in family chats, and avoid sharing updates about your loved one’s progress or preparation methods until the exam period has ended.
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5. Be a good chauffeur
All transport arrangements to get your loved ones to and from exam venues safely should be planned well in advance. Have backup plans ready for getting there and do practice runs to unfamiliar locations. This prevents last-minute panic and ensures punctual arrival for each paper.
6. It’s a marathon, not a sprint
The period between exams requires special consideration, too. Rather than immediately jumping into discussions the previous paper or an upcoming one, allow your loved one to set the tone. Some might want to talk through their experience of writing finals, while others prefer to move forward without analysis.
7. Home should be a support bubble
The home environment plays a crucial role during this stressful period for matric students, whether they are properly prepared or not. Small adjustments at home can make a huge difference in a loved one’s ability to focus and perform well. Consider lowering the volume on TVs and taking phone calls away from study areas. These simple changes create a more conducive atmosphere for concentration.
8. Tips for siblings
Siblings have a special role to play during the matric exam period. Of course, it’s natural to continue with normal activities, but being mindful of noise levels when friends visit can show invaluable support. Offering to take over some household chores or simply being understanding of a sibling’s stress can make a world of difference, too.
9. Tips for extended family members
Extended family members can provide crucial backup support as well. Grandparents, aunts, and uncles might offer alternative study spaces or help with transport to exam venues. Their homes can serve as peaceful retreats when the main household becomes too intense – which inevitably does happen, especially with younger siblings around.
Your loved one has likely prepared for this moment – now they need your steady presence and practical support to perform their best!
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