Let’s face it, dating lately is a rollercoaster. Especially since dating apps have become the only way to meet new people for most. But, to be honest, dating has started feeling like a lot of unfulfilling work, and like an unsatisfying job, it’s leading to burnout. Quite simply, dating burnout is a thing, and most people are experiencing it.
But what exactly is dating burnout?
Think of it like gym fatigue for your love life. According to experts, it’s that feeling of emotional and mental exhaustion caused by the constant pressure and perceived failures of modern dating, often fuelled by the relentless swiping culture of dating apps.
Apps: Blessing or Burden?
There’s no denying that dating apps can be a great way to meet new people. But let’s be honest, the endless stream of profiles and curated photos can leave you feeling like you’re on a never-ending cattle parade. The constant barrage of “likes” and “dislikes” can also chip away at your self-esteem, making it hard to feel truly connected.
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How to spot the signs of dating burnout
You’ve become a dating cynic
You used to be optimistic about every match, but now you scroll through profiles with a critical eye, nitpicking every detail and finding reasons why it won’t work out. It goes beyond that. Updating your profile can feel just as exhausting and tiring.
And, if you do match with someone you might like, the excitement of meeting them in person wears off quickly. And, in some cases, you might even find yourself cancelling dates last minute, just to avoid the potential of a bad date.
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Rejection stings
A simple “no thanks” after a date used to roll off your back. Now, it sends you down a spiral of self-doubt, questioning your worth and attractiveness.
Dating feels like a competition
Everyone else seems to be coupled up and living happily ever after, while you’re stuck swiping left and right with nothing to show for it.
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Here’s your survival guide:
- Ditch the Apps (Temporarily): Take a break from the app jungle! Give yourself some space to rediscover yourself and what you truly want. There’s a whole world of potential partners outside your phone screen.
- Focus on You-Time: Do things that make YOU happy. Hang with friends, take a pottery class, or finally conquer that sourdough starter. When you feel good about yourself, it shows, and that confidence is magnetic.
- Explore Alternative Dating Scenes: Join a club, volunteer for a cause you care about, or reconnect with old friends. You never know who you might meet organically.
Remember, dating is supposed to be fun! If it’s feeling like a chore, take a step back and focus on yourself. When you least expect it, love might find you brewing a batch of perfect sourdough or volunteering at your local animal shelter.
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